Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

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As it is, I found it more frustrating than helpful, and would suggest going to other books on this topic for help ( Meowbie's review has some recommendations). In time, you’ll learn to better cope with your problems, trust yourself, and actually begin to feel your own feelings instead of someone else’s. While I do believe that having a belief system of some sort is comforting and helpful during any recovery process, to say it’s all that is necessary and then follow it up with more steps “that must be worked” is nonsensical. This book helped me to truly explore that, and I can only say that I am happier on the other side of this book -- and a hell of a lot less anxious LOL.

In this Blink to Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More, you’ll learn some hard truths about the nature of codependency, as well as steps you can take and attitudes you can adopt to begin traveling down the path to recovery.The feeling of failure comes as a consequence of this lifestyle, which drains you of your time and energy. Having been raised by a codependent parent who catered to my other narcissistic parent, this book has been validating to read. This book will prompt you to climb the highest point and have a broad overview of how your life should be structured.

I read this slowly, over a few months, digesting each new piece and practicing applying everything in my day-to-day life. While there may be a steep learning curve at first, meeting these needs will be a fulfilling and rewarding journey. This sense of liability emerges in various shapes and sizes through thoughts, actions, wants, and deeds – you name it. I think the title of this book should have reflected the fact it was primarily geared towards alcoholics and/or children of alcoholics.The Twelve Step references seemed appropriate at first but I didn't expect to see chapter(s) dedicated to the program. The things that cause the most pain will catch us by surprise some ordinary Saturday afternoon, and life will never again be the same. This book made me realize that I have a voice and an opinion and both matter just as much as the next person. Treatment includes education, experiential groups, and individual and group therapy through which co-dependents rediscover themselves and identify self-defeating behavior patterns. I did weed out the passages I felt really didn't apply - like the 12-step program or the overly religious parts.